Take heed,Unless you will fall!

Thursday November 28th, 2013

1st Corinthians 10:12

Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.

This blog is for those who are in Christ. Both those who partake of babe spiritual milk,meaning they know little of the word;or those that partake in the meater word of God,meaning you are an avid reader of the bible and live by it.

This blog is also for those who may know of Jesus but don't live by his commandments.

        What all three of us have in common is we all were made by GOD. As God's creation we have to be Alert! Watchful! At All Times! As Christians thankfully we have a Lord and savior Jesus who surpasses all other fake and temporary peace in this world, and we are able to call upon him in time of need! But those who have not surrendered their hearts to Christ, in their time of watching and staying alert, their hearts will be troubled! It's a FACT! 

I had posted a scenario on my facebook page:

Your are a Born Again Christian woman and you get married to a Born Again man, you say. And you've gone through marriage counseling by God's grace. A month into your marriage, he' is found cheating on you..WOULD YOU DIVORCE? 

A scenario like this only comes about because of ONE thing, the man and the woman were not carefully watching over their spiritual life;and in turn they fell. The man because he isn't diligently watching over his eyes, and guarding his heart and so he is lead away to another woman with pure lust. And the woman who may or may not have been carefully watching over the marriage prayerfully is also affected by the husband's behavior because they are one. This couple will have no such excuse when faced with God for this type of breaking of their marriage covenant.

The thing about it is, for unbleivers those who choose to not recieve Christ, will have no excuse before God, and when temptations and hard life trials come, because Christ was preached to them and they recieved him not.Those in Christ will also have no excuse as to how life is poorly handled when faced with storms  because Christ was always there to comfort them in their time of need.

We all must stay alert, humble and never prideful. Because where you think you are now,  PLEASE take heed, pay attention, and be cautious, unless you will fall a hard fall, back to where you came from, maybe nonredeemable.....but by God's grace, I pray that fall will never be your portion in Jesus name.

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Janet Adeola Songonuga

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The DANGERS of watching PORN

Friday November 8th, 2013

PORN. A very familiar word for our youth, young adults, and adults. Sadly even many elementary aged children know the term, and may have stumbled upon a video due to its easy accessibility on the internet.

I am no different. As mentioned in previous blogs at an age when I was exploring my own body at the age of 13, I too clicked a play > button and indulged myself in selfish sexual perversion, right on my home computer. Luckily my dad checked the internet history daily and quickly shut it  down. But many of us aren't lucky. We may not have a parent considerate enough to SHUT down what dangers that come with PORN.

In our bedrooms, dorm rooms, apartment, on our cell phones, ipads, laptops where we think no 
one is watching we have a desire in our heart to want to watch two human beings indulge in inappropriate sexual acts, then this desire makes its way to our mind, to then turn into an action that makes us click on that video, or tv show. The first time you click it maybe you are saying to  yourself this will be the only time, you are just curious. Know that God created you as a sexual wanting creature. From Sex you were made, and sex you will partake in to create more children and help flee from sexual immorality when married. SO if you watch porn once it will be an addiction and it's only by the grace of God, you will be able to stop. That's danger number 1.

You may be asking where in the bible does it say not to watch PORN? 

Matthew 5:28

Jesus tells us here, any one of us both men or woman, who looks at the opposite sex lustfully has committed sexual sin in our hearts. And in Proverbs we learn out of the heart flows the issues of life. Watching Porn is an issue. Watching Porn creates this lust whether you are doing anything physical with your body other than using your eyes to watch. And in watching Porn you are committing adultery because the act of sexual intercourse is to be done between a man and a woman who are married and have made a vow to stay together for the rest of their lives. 

1 Corinthians 6:18-20(NLT)

Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.

Watching Porn is a sexual sin and it defiles your body. Sin as explained in my blog post here , spreads to other areas of your life,and affects many many other things, we will touch more on it below. 

There are so many other verses but lastly in Job it's written

Job 31:1 

“I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?"

When you watch porn you are creating a covenant with your eyes, looking upon a sexual covenant the covenant of immorality, and a covenant that can hinder your own views of sex. PORN creates in you a superficial type of beauty in a man or woman. It creates in you a superficial perverse way of love you now expect to be in your bedroom once married.

Sadly it's not only single people that watch pornography. There is a SERIOUS SERIOUS ERROR in the church that says it's ok married men and woman watch porn, so they do. THIS IS AN ERROR. Many worldly psychologist have falsely stated  you should watch it with your spouse to start foreplay. The holy spirit is the best love maker in marriage, lean on him!

Moving on though, let's talk about the PORN industry:

Porn as fondly abbreviated by society is a Hollywood movie. It is fiction, staged in front of a set. Before they start you can expect the famous Hollywood line : LIGHTS, CAMERA, ACTION! Makers of porn have made it believable for people to associate pain with pleasure. They show a scene that is painful but appears as though the actress is enjoying it. On a TBN documentary an ex-porn film maker was saying how anal sex is something she dreads and cries out of fear right before the sex scene. However when the camera starts rolling her and others appear like its heaven on earth. 

Why should singles not watch PORN you ask?

Porn sets unrealistic expectation for the future marriage. Someone that watches porn is never satisfied in marriage, because porn has set in their minds a very unrealistic expectation that can not be obtained. A number of married people who have watched porn now wonder why their spouse is not able to meet their needs. They wonder why their wives cant act like the porn stars. One lady stated that she didn't enjoy sex with her husband because how she reached climax was not how it was in a porn scene. These expectations are unreal, and has destroyed many homes and has caused infidelity, because many people are not satisfied due to unrealistic desires.  As a single, PORN inhibits the deadly sin of masturbation. And touching yourself sister, and brother, creates problems in letting God's true grace fall upon your life and it does negatively affect your marriage. By watching Porn you are also allowing seeds from those actor's lives to be planted in your heart, and seeds of the devil also be planted. Porn is one of the devils active workshops. Porn again set's a perverted view of beauty. The actors have a ton of makeup and their body are false-fully edited; to have idols of beauty in your heart, will never allow God the chance of giving you his best in a spouse.

You are married? Why should married people not watch PORN you ask?

As Christians we are not NOT to engage in pre-marital sex, so then how do we know how to engage in it when the time comes since we are not quote on quote experienced? I tell you that a worldly psychologist is not your answer, how can a worldly person have an understanding on a Godly thing like sex?! YES God created sex, so he knows how it's done best!

2 Corinthians 6:13-15

13 Now for a recompence in the same, (I speak as unto my children,) be ye also enlarged.

14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

Speak to Christian leaders that God has given the grace to talk about this holy union called sex in marriage. Speak to a medical doctor. But I need you to understand that you can not expect every leader to talk to you about it because they may not have the grace to do so.Sex has become an uncomfortable topic because the devil has corrupted it and it is often looked at as a bad thing. But I tell you it's not. It was created by God for love enjoyment and procreation. Seek help for all your sexual questions!

On both sides, on camera and those watching, PORN benefits neither! It will ruin and spoil your life if you keep indulging in an unreal fantasy. We watch PORN because we want to feel loved, wanted, desired. I am telling you today! These is a God who wants to fill that void. He wants to love you, and take care of you. He birthed that desire of love in us to show him that love, so he in-turn can show us. His name is Jesus and he is calling you to give up your old life unto him, so he can give you a new life FREE from the bondage of pornography and into a new life of purity!

Lastly,

Learn what science has to say about porn. ON all sides its a NO GO.

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Janet Adeola Songonuga

UNASHAMED VIRGIN: 20 + UP

Sunday November 3rd, 2013

A young brother, 25 who is getting to really know Jesus Christ asked me to write this blog. He is a virgin and he actually feels ashamed.

He feels ashamed that he is walking in Purity.

He feels ashamed that he actually has OBEYED God's commandments.

He feels ashamed that if he stays pure till marriage he will be sharing an unbreakable covenant with his wife, and wont have to explain why he inserted himself into other females but didn't see them worthy to marry.

He feels ashamed his marriage bed will not be undefiled.

He feels ashamed that he has not gotten a sexual transmitted diseases(yes you can get it other ways other than sexual intercourse,but its rare)

He feels ashamed he doesn't have a child out there he can't support and has never had to be faced in asking a girl to keep or not keep a baby

He ultimately feels ashamed because of the weight on men in society who equate multiple sex partners to manhood.

These feelings aren't specific to him or men, but also to females who may be feeling the same. I have one word to tell you. All your brothers and sister ex fornicators, that came to know Jesus, ask God for forgiveness. For giving into social pressures to give up one of the most sacred part of  their human body;saved to be shared with the one person God created us to be with, and to be able to multiply and subdue the earth with.

I want to explain the beautiful covenant of marriage that intimacy is worth to be saved in.
Let's read :

1 Corinthians 7:1-40

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

There are so many other verses showing how sexually pleasing a marriage can be besides this one. How marriage can be very enjoyable, and very inviting on all fronts. How waiting to do it God's way brings:

1. Two people that are actively working to selflessly please each other.In  worldly relationships where commitment of marriage is not done God's way, two people are selfish. Only looking to please themselves, and that creates a wedge between the two. 

2. No soul ties to talk about. When intercourse between two people commence, this creates the joining of the souls. In the brain and heart the physical connection is created. The more partners you have the more soul ties you are creating. 

Matthew 18:18 says:

 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.

Those who have had these soul ties have to really pray for God to help break them so their marriage covenant can really be as special as the day they gave their life to Jesus Christ.

 3. Marriage God's way without dating the world's way lessens the practice of recreational dating damaging your relationship. In recreational dating there are two people who haven't been totally sold on each other, who hide and smother their feeling by being sexual intimate, when their feelings need to be dealt with without the access of sexual intimacy its unbearable and that's when a break up happens. As a person granted by grace to remain pure you aren't sucked into this cycle. So when you get married, when things get difficult because through courting you were able to JUST talk things out, your marriage is built on a solid rock and will last.

Brother, sister YOUR PURITY IS SO IMPORTANT ! The world's way into womanhood and manhood, that really fades once you are getting to that age when your parents are wondering why you don't have a wife or husband yet, ISN'T WORTH IT! Do not be swayed by the facade being portrayed on TV, radio, internet of bachelors and bacheloretts. It's an empty life. And these men and woman who have given their most sacred parts of their bodies prematurely yearn for a deeper love, the BEST love of all..JESUS CHRIST. You my friend have found it, or if you don't know him yet, know that sex partner or not, marriage partner or not, people die, the world fades away, but a GOD that NEVER DIES,and is perfect in Love, is someone you need and should want to know! 

You are not the only virgin out there! There are a host of men and organizations who have been moved by God through the holy spirit to stand out boldly for God as Virgins till marriage.

Stephen Yamoah

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Email: skyballa34@yahoo.com

"He is a proud virgin till marriage, who loves Jesus "

Jeffrey Tyler

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"He is a Man of God, Speaker, Abstinence Advocate, Personality, Teacher, brother, friend, Winner, married to his lovely one wife, and waited till his marriage day to lose his virginity "

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You are not in this alone. Give your whole heart to Christ. Keep contending for the faith. Continue to believe God for your wife and husband, pray in the mean time so your discerning spirit can identify the right one when the time comes.

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From your Sister in Christ with a Servants Heart,

Janet Adeola Songonuga

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