For those feeling Rejected

Tuesday, March 10th 2014

Have you ever felt rejected? Or are you feeling rejected now? 

I DO. I HAVE.

I can and will be the first one to raise my hand. As a 23 year old (as of 7 days ago) who was suppose to be done at 21 but is still on a path to finish undergrad,  as a very single woman by societies standard, and the list can go on,on what I lack and how the label of rejection can be placed over my life. I have felt that way, and the thing about feeling rejection is if you let those thoughts manifest it will continue to eat at you. You will continue to enter that "R" hole and then continue to sink further and further in without a light at the end of the tunnel.

Rejection. From our childhood we may have had an experience that "stunted" a particular part of our self esteem that we haven't, or won't let go since. From our past, from people who perished because of a lack of knowledge and hurt us, we felt rejection and held on to it like it belongs apart of our identity. And from our current situation, from something that may not have been out of your control or from a flicker of dwindling hope rejection is felt. 

[The thing about feeling rejection is if you let those thoughts manifest it will continue to eat at you]

You see rejection left my life the minute I realized that Jesus Christ had came to die for me, a sinner, a "reject", a cast away. The thing about the feeling of rejection you are feeling or were feeling is Jesus came to die for you too! He came to wipe that label of shame, guilt, and unworthiness away, forever, FOR GOOD.

The LORD says:

Right now, if you are or were weak the LORD wants to draw near to you, to comfort you. He made you, you are his child and he will save you, if, once you allow him in.

He also says in 2nd Corinthians 12:9:

The Grace that manifested on the cross of Calvary, which Jesus Christ, the Son of God came down from the heavens to die for our sins, is sufficient enough for you! In our time of weakness, when those thoughts of rejection want to overcome us, we can run to our savior with open arms and remind ourselves that label doesn't belong to us! Because His love, His grace, and His image has come upon you.

[The Grace that manifested on the cross of Calvary, which Jesus Christ, the Son of God came down from the heavens to die for our sins, is sufficient enough for you! ]

We are co-heirs of God, I am a co-heir of him, and when I accepted Jesus into my life, started reading the scripture,  and praying, I knew the worlds standards was far beneath God's standard. Sister, brother, when you walk in God's glory, when you want to serve him, by giving your heart to him, you are stamped a winner, a champion, number 1 in his book. 

Your singleness in mans eyes, is married with Him, God as your husband in his eyes. 

The stunted growth in mans eyes is the beautiful careful knitting of the precious gift He is brewing inside of you.

You will meet every goal and promise the Lord has for you, if its in Gods will for you. The best schools, marriage, children, wealth and more.

I want to invite you tonight if you've been carrying that label, and you are tired  and looking for a means of escape, Jesus is calling you home, he wants you to seek him , if you knew him to re seek the joy of salvation and to seek him more!

Isaiah 55:6

Seek ye the Lord while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near:

My friend, will you today:

Acts 14:15

And saying, Sirs, why do ye these things? We also are men of like passions with you, and preach unto you that ye should turn from these vanities unto the living God, which made heaven, and earth, and the sea, and all things that are therein:

Are you ready to turn from the vain things of the world, from the ideas and desires that call you a name contrary to your God given name of Victory?

He is ready, he wants you, and his promise is once you repent, receive him, and start following him you will receive life. You will live life more abundantly and those thoughts of rejection will leave faster then they ever tried to creep in.

John 6:33

33 The true bread of God is the one who comes down from heaven and gives life to the world.”

I love you and I am praying for you <3

(With another fellow woman of God Amanda at a G4CW Awards &Gala Harvard Club NYC)

(If you are in New Jersey You are invited! Hope to see you. Let me know if you have any questions. <3)

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From your Sister in Christ with a Servants Heart,

Janet Adeola Songonuga

"Why accepting Jesus was the BEST Mental Health decision I ever made

Wednesday, February 26th 2014

Mental Illness. A term that has grown with my generation worldwide. From the events of 9/11 which created a heightened sense of terrorism, from many many shootings in schools, malls, and other places, people otherwise would not have expected from the richest country in the world, "America. 

Many of us have had the luxury of not having Mental Illness invade our personal space, but many like me aren't as fortunate.  From a host of credible research you will come to find out mental illness can be triggered by anything. It also can affect anyone; from very young children due to chemical imbalances, to very old and very educated individuals who hit a rough patch in life and found it a little difficult to get back up; In fact its more common that mental illness looms among many people worldwide, but hasn't been diagnosed, therefore goes untreated. 

Anything that suppresses your dealing with reality, sex, weed, alcohol, domestic violence addictions to sports, video games anything is a form of mental illness! " -Kevin Powell #Mentalillness"

At an event I went to in 2013 a panelist made a very true statement, "Everyone needs a therapist". What a true statement. You, and I need someone to talk to, unwind, de-stress to, and tell our secretes and hurts to. But who will that person be? It can't be anyone. Many of us find it in humans ranging from our husband, wife, parents, best friend, and other family members. But the person I and I am proud to say is mine is.... 

Mental Health wise, the best decision I ever made was accepting Jesus into my life, and I will give you a few reason as to why.

Mark 2:17

When Jesus heard it, he saith unto them, They that are whole have no need of the physician, but they that are sick: I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.

I don't know about you, but I was no where near perfect when I knew Jesus came to save me before the date I accepted him, even when I thought I was already a Christian. He truly came to give us new life, and a new spirit and rid our condemnation by helping us strip away our sins. His calling and longing for me, made me respond by accepting him into my life  and allowing me to have a personal, relationship with him, not one by works. Mentally this was a huge relief knowing Jesus, the son of God himself is truly on your side.

[Everyone needs a therapist]

Matthew 11:28

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

Exodus 33:14

And he said, “My presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.”

Whose presence will go with you and give you rest on this earth? Except its spiritual, and most likely the Holy Spirit? That's another thing I love about Jesus. Mentally(praying and reading the bible) I can come to him and unload because he knows I am not perfect, but striving for perfection..and then in doing so I have a peace that isn't for a moment that happens with other things on this earth, but everlasting! The words of God say when you come to him with a heavy heart he lays upon you his easy yoke and lightens our burden.  Oh how I Love Jesus.

Exodus 33:14

As for man, his days are like grass, he flourishes like a flower of the field; the wind blows over it and it is gone, and its place remembers it no more.

Exodus 33:14

How long, O men, will you turn my glory into shame? How long will you love delusions and seek false gods?

Exodus 33:14

For... there are many... whose lives make them the enemies of the cross of Christ. These men are heading for utter destruction--their god is their own appetite, they glory in their shame, and this world is the limit of their horizon

Psalm 118:8

It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man.

I understand there are people in our lives we can really unwind to and we feel so much better afterwards. But the fact is another human is Not equipped to carry all our burdens, worries, and stress. If they try to, mental stability may not be the outcome for either of you. Yes there are professionals we can talk to, and there have been many studies on how these professionals have to find a way to really unwind and de-stress to separate their work from their personal life. There is nothing wrong with going to a professional, but Jesus, open 24/7, has an answer to every one of Life's questions through the Words in the Bible and conviction of the Holy Spirit we receive once we accept him. Humans eventually die, our trust can't be ultimately entrusted to them, but God, God the maker of Life, allows you the freedom to relax and truly unwind.

[There is nothing wrong with going to a professional, but Jesus, open 24/7, has an answer to every one of Life's questions through the Words in the Bible and conviction of the Holy Spirit we receive once we accept him.]

Life is marked with ups and downs. There will be downs, all though I don't pray that on anyone but you must be ready for them. It's these down times that you may want to doubt yourself, and rob yourself of happiness and joy. But I want to tell you these times don't have to be marked with a deep depression, and psychiatric drug, Jesus if you accept and believe can dramatically change your mental makeup! In my time of depression, despair, and feeling second to none in a very sinful dating world and world at large, Jesus ,made me whole and sets me free, then and now!

I invite you to accept him, Jesus, a friend to you, me, all today!

Cheers to a world of sound Mental Health, where God can touch everyone and explain to them, they are uniquely made to give of themselves to better this world before we return home to be with him in Heaven.

I Love you and I am praying for everyone reading this that has a Mental Illness. Find your comfort and strength in the Lord. It works for me, and he promises it will work for you<3

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From your Sister in Christ with a Servants Heart,

Janet Adeola Songonuga