Monday June 2nd, 2014
Imagine this. You are honored to be married. You conceive and because you are married you have no thoughts of aborting but choose to keep the baby. The baby is full term and ready to come out of the womb.As the baby is coming out through the birth canal and then the vaginal walls it happens to OPEN up it's eyes. The baby will be revealed as to how many men's privates had entered into your vaginal walls. Will the baby be able to say it's just been your husband, her father or will she be confused and witness men from middle school, highschool, and times when maybe you felt ENTITLED to sleep with boys in college and beyond, featured within your vaginal walls?
A lack of protection and wise counsel will and has lead many of us woman to find comfort between our legs and the most intimate parts of our hearts.
As woman according to God's views of us we are special, queens,far above rubies, fragile and to therefore to be handled with care. God made in place three forms of protection, for us woman to gladly take advantage of, to use, so we are not to be misguided and abused.
The First of these protections is God through his son Jesus Christ. I understand some of you reading this already know God and by His grace know him through the Lord Jesus Christ, the ONLY way to Him. But you may not understand what is meant when he seeks to protect us woman. The psalmist David writes in;
Psalm 91:1-2
He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.
I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress: my God; in him will I trust.
Think of God like that guy with open arms that you know gives great heart felt hugs and is there to ward off the jerks that come about in this world; that's how God is and that's what he seeks to be for us woman who choose to yield to him, take upon his ways, and forsake our worldly life, thoughts, and actions. He truly wants to be the guy you talk to on that phone call...to heaven all night long as your refuge... and the guy you spend all weekend with on that campsite , as your fortress. God the protector that will never gossip about you and in whom you can truly trust.
How do you get to come to be so intimate with our Almighty God? Even those who have confessed their sins and became Born Again still struggle with feeling close to Him. (I have yet to write a blog on how I spend time with God but I will.) All there is to it is opening up the Holy Scriptures and reading, meditating, and studying them. Learning Gods words for yourself will assure you of how special, worthy, and well respected you are to carry yourself. God will heal you, comfort you,and convict you to run away from those sins like sexual perversion that will not only ruin your life but ruin your one singular body.
1 Corinthians 6:18
18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
The Second protection we as woman are to have are our fathers and additional brothers that are birthed from your earthly father. Sometimes I have to remind us woman it took two to make us, a man and a woman, a sperm from the father and an egg from the mother. Therefore, although moms have been deemed more maternal towards the children as it even encourages in scriptures, a fathers touch, love, discipline and protection is vital in a woman's life. A Father is to be the second in command to God. After running to God to cry and be joyful with, she is to run to her father and do the same.A father is to be a part of major decisions in her life such as schooling, marriage, moving, courtship and such. As woman we are to provide access in allowing our father to be active in our lives if our fathers aren't actively wanting to be involved. You must understand our fathers are men, and so they have a manly, unique perspective to this world. It's something we woman will NEVER get, we weren't wired as men, as much as many of us like to claim we can be both men and woman. Truth is we can't. Many fathers I have learned, want to be involved and aren't given the outlets to. When it comes to knowing our self-worth, our fathers help to ward of the cunning men who want to rob us of our dignity, and the men that we are so desperate for that we are only cheating our own-selves as woman. Our fathers are called to pray with us and are called to provide for us, something we are to look for in our future husband. I further expounded on the role of Christian fathers in this blog. As an older brother or younger brother you are second after your father. Your father may not be on instagram, or on the school campus where you and your sisters are. Look out for her, assure her of her beauty and her worth, so other guys in the world won't.
For those that don't have fathers, or have fathers who are inactive, the bible lets us know in
Isaiah 1:17
Learn to do good. Seek justice.Help the oppressed.Defend the cause of orphans. Fight for the rights of widows.
James 1:27
Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world
Those who identify as members of the body of Christ as Christians and are a part of the church are to take on those without fathers. So sister you are to find a church home, not find total comfort in your guy friends, courting partner, or whomever. Join a church, get acquainted with the Pastor and the first family, his wife and children. They will be able to pour into you Gods love, which is what you truly need to fulfill your life's calling and purpose and to keep your body under subjection. <3
The Third and last protection God is calling for woman to have is our husband. I know some will say well not every woman is called to be married. Well that is true but my deepest desire is to see every woman with the desire to marry, get married in the Lord and have this beautiful protection of a husband that's being lead by God and not his own earthly will. In one of my favorite passages in the bible it lets us know,
For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. (Ephesians 5:23). In Ephesians 5:22 and 24 it further reads Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord; Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. For our husbands to truly be our beautiful protector we must submit to him as his wife. We must respect him. Not doing this makes his protection null and void and you will feel confused and misused. There is no way around it. In this same chapter the Lord commands the husbands to love and cherish us, so in our submission to them we are able to enjoy his admonition. In that we draw strength, feel appreciated, loved, and are able to live this singular life in peace and hope till we go to heaven. It's such a beautiful protection and my prayer is for every sister to enjoy it and or continue to enjoy it if already married.
Yes we woman are strong, we are able to be independent, smart, witty, and God knows this, He made us. We misunderstand our worth and the strength and powers we have can be used for good or for harm. We are seriously princess and queens in God's eyes and that why he has these protections in place to ensure we live the BEST LIFE.
For those who may have never heard of these protections or of the Lord Jesus Christ, today is your day to be able to receive him newly into your heart, or rededicate your life to him. Jesus did not come to win more of the already saved and righteous, but for sinners. Woman who have already slept with multiple men when He wants and has called us to keep our bodies for our husband; Or woman with anger, drunkenness or whatever. If you also don't feel beautiful or worthy God wants to be your covering and wants to pour lovely thoughts in your ears. All you have to do is confess all your sins and wrong doings and say through your mouth and believe in your heart that Jesus Christ is Lord, pick up the bible and walk in your victory. Congratulations and welcome into the kingdom of God!
In lieu of writing and starting a series entitled "What habits do you support" that I know will really bless you all as much as it blessed me in hearing and writing what the Lord showed to me; I was lead to speak on the protection we woman need. I pray you were able to learn from this.
Thank you for reading! Please Share. God bless you!
From your Sister in Christ ,
Janet Adeola Songonuga
