The Root Cause of Sexual Immorality

Wednesday, December 4th, 2013


So, so sorry to all my readers, that expected my post on "the root cause of sexual immorality" last week. My intentions were to post it last week but, I guess the spirit didn't tug at me to do it. But I am itching to share with you where the underlying root cause of, why sexual perversion runs so rampet in our generation for man and woman. Before you read you may want to take a deep breath. 

The root cause of sexual immorality is:


MEN.

yes MEN but specifically the LEADERSHIP of men.


Now many of you men reading this will be saying oh, there are woman too who parade themselves to want to be seduced, and what about all the PORNSTARS, well this is in fact true..but let me explain. 

Since the beginning of the bible, which sets the beginning of time the responsibility of the man has been a great one. Let's turn to Genesis chapter 2 and 3 . In reading these two chapter's, starting with chapter 2 you will see after God made everything on the earth. He made MAN, Adam, and after making Adam he assigned Adam to name all the animals He had made. In doing this Adam was a leader. 

             From this we take that all men that profess Christ and those who don't are to be leaders.

Moving on, after Adam named all the animals, God becomes very pleased with him. He then puts Adam to sleep and blesses him with a woman to help him tend to all the earth. The woman, Eve is placed under his care, including keeping the other direction he further tells to Adam. He tells Adam NOT Eve, to abstain from eating from the tree of knowledge. Therefore Eve never heard the direction straight from God. Yes Eve entertains the serpent in the tree, and even after the serpent's warning she still partakes of the fruit, and leads Adam to eat it. BUT Adam was given the direction, he was the head over Eve, 

 so he should have been closely watching his wife, continuing his strict devotion with God, so the fall of them both, would not have happened. 

For those who may not understand the responsibility of a Man, let's turn to Ephesians 5 :

Ephesians 5:23-27
 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

Yes, I said men NOT boys. God want's all men to take the leadership position in all relations dealing with woman. In taking that leadership position, the men must be submissive to God,  his rules and guide. The woman in turn is to look unto the man for direction and submit unto him. Lastly the man will be judged on how he lead  his household and wife on everything the family went through! 

And now back to present day, there is one, a lack of MEN in our society. There are many boys sadly. And due to this fact many BOYS are entering into relationships without the understanding of their roles as leaders. Therefore, miss-communication in dealing with females happen, and sexual perversion with high numbers of pre-marital sex occurs.  Females are being lead to be confused when a men will claim he is in a relationship with someone else, but chooses to engage in relationship with this OTHER WOMAN. Yes the woman can seduce you first but you the man are to resist the woman.

There are many instances where family fall apart because they lack the correct head of the household. No matter if the woman has stepped up to run all the household  rules, in the bible the feminist approach doesn't work. Woman are not made to behead the responsibility of headship over relationships, it's the man.

Ladies who are single and married, what you need to look for in a man is if he reverences God. A man that shows no reverence to God, is a man that lives for himself and has no desire in leading you, the woman, into a light that glorifies God. He steers all his actions straight to his selfish desires. A man must, with Gods direction order the steps of your relationship, and family. If confusion or questions come in as a woman, the man should be able to answer with all clarity.

For the men, your responsibility is a great one. But you aren't leading alone. To lead effectively and to keep the purity within the relationship you must submit yourself onto God. You must say ok, my lustful desires are making me defile a FATHERS DAUGHTER without the permission of this woman's father or God, therefore I need a God to help and guide me. There is no if's ands or buts to this.  Because you lead the way, particularly in a relationship, whether courtship, engagement or marriage, a lack of your leadership makes you the root cause of sexual perversion.

My prayer is for all the men reading this blog to humble themselves and today accept a savior named  JESUS, who can help divert your sexual urges to first him, to purify, to give you the wisdom and knowledge to be an effective leader, and to then lead you to one wife, and to have her help you in your walk of life, in Jesus NAME. My prayer for the females is to be able to identify a man who leads incorrectly and correctly, and that it will be your portion to choose a man that can lead you and so your sexual purity stays in tact till your marriage day, and after that day your marital life is a blessing. 

May God bless those who are reading.

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Happy One Year in FAITH Birthday!

Monday, November 25th, 2013

WOW! Today marks my BORN-AGAIN ANNIVERSARY. A year today on November 25th, 2012, I knelt down before God, as my mom and pastor were my witness and surrendered my life to Jesus Christ, and received him into my life. I really thank God for all the people God brought into my life to encourage me, the people that came in for a season and those who stayed. I can stand here with a significantly higher GPA , a Congressional intern with the United Stated Congress, a woman of God that is saved, sinless, sanctified and baptized. And trading in the pleasures of this world to receive and live out the best free gift of salvation forever.

 I learned so much while really living for God, and I would like to share it with you. These can also be an indicator of whether you are Born-Again.


    1. There must be a set date you know you surrender your life to Jesus Christ. Mine again was November 25th, 2012. The founder of my church, Deeper Life Christian Ministries, Pastor W.F.Kumuyi gave his life at 23 years of age on April 5th, 1964. When you read the bible, every great person with a lengthy story had one day they encountered Christ for themselves. Check out Paul. For those who grew up in the church like me. Be not deceived. We CANNOT give parts of our lives to Christ, and think there is power  from God flowing through our veins. Honey, that power is FALSE and one day you'll fall and get in deep trouble, and you can't blame God because you never served him, he doesn't know you!

     2. Restitution is very important! If you go to a good bible believing church, or you read your bible yourself. You'll know after salvation comes being sanctified (sanctification), and then comes your restitution! Restitution is going to whoever you have wronged apologizing to them and repaying them back whatever you took! I had to do this to my parents. It wasn't until I did my restitution I started to grow more spiritually and I became sanctified.


      3. The Vices of the world are not worth it when you partake in it! Drinking, smoking, pre-marital sexing, stealing, lying to get instagram likes, you name it, if it's not Jesus and things that are good, pure, noble it ain't worth it! What you are learning in church and if you have christian Born Again parents, listen to them!

      4. Guard your heart! What you watch and listen to, sow seeds in your heart that will eventual reap something! If you are sowing seeds of evil you will start to produce evil. Whatever was a problem for you in the world, if you don't abstain from it, you will keep having that problem. If you are so adamant on staying a virgin till marriage but you are listening to the hottest singers of the world, Beyonce, Jay-Z, Kanye, Trey-Songz, Chris Brown, Adele talking about bumping and grinding,  don't be surprised when your legs are opened to this person you thought you loved but LUSTED pre- marriage! It is not a coincidence Jesus himself prayed upon each and every one of us:
Matthew 15:12-14
Then came his disciples, and said unto him, Knowest thou that the Pharisees were offended, after they heard this saying?
 But he answered and said, Every plant, which my heavenly Father hath not planted, shall be rooted up.

I pray today every plant that has not been planted by God himself,be rooted out of your life in Jesus name!

      5. Modesty is important. VERY IMPORTANT. Not only for woman but also for man. Women are being so deceived by the devil. The media tells us it's ok to use our body to get what we  want, but it's just giving us curse after curse. We woman attract the wrong men, get the wrong type of attention, and all of Gods glory in which he created us is wiped FAST away from us. Ladies the way in which God made us,means we are so beautiful and delicate. Therefore our bodies are so precious and we are to cover it and keep that glory. We are NOT a piece of meat, sexy, and not the world's eye feast. Not dressing modestly creates the
sexual perversion problem many of us have. I personally have given up pants for skirts to keep my feminist glory, I don't wear makeup because I am perfect the way I am, and I don't wear jewelry because that's a custom of the Egyptians in the bible, I come from the linage of Jesus and Israelite. If you are looking to learn more about modesty and bring back this lost virtue please visit: 

    6. If you truly want God to show you himself then you must be willing to change. PERIOD. I used to wear pants, jewelry, makeup, all these things but because I surrendered my entire life to Christ he stripped me of those things. I prayed to God to give me wisdom, he told me to not talk to guys after 11pm, so I won't be tempted. He had me set apart Fridays to really fast and pray. Just be willing to change, you can't become new if you are holding on to the old.

    7. You need to pray that God will lead you to people who are also growing in faith. I am so blessed God has brought into my life people who are aspiring to grow closer to the Lord and stay in faith, everyday! Persecution is real! As a child living for God in your youth, you will not be liked and you will be often alone. But if you have that sister, or brother to pray with around your age, whose goal is heaven too, oh man what a blessing!!

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.

  8. The church you go to and listen to matters! Some people who don't       know the true power within my church ask me why I go to Deeper Life Bible Church. One, you may want to know it has the third largest congregation in the world. SO surely God is doing signs and wonders in the church. As a child of God, if you are going to a church that all you are doing is dancing and singing and nothing is convicting you to stop sleeping with your girlfriend or boyfriend, stop stepping outside your marriage,stealing or lying something is seriously wrong!

9. Almost done. But the peace you have now you are BORN-AGAIN you must spread, share to your family first and then to the world. The great commission was to go into all the world and preach the gospel, ask people to pray for them, write a verse on social media, invite people to church! Everyday it's a 50 percent chance we will live or die! No hour is promised!

10. Finally, as a born again again Christian, Christianity is to be enjoyed, not endured! Have fun in Christ. Go for a run and blast gospel music. Get together with some brothers and sisters and eat and laugh! Gosh, having fun in Christ is the best! And doing it with others who truly fear God and want his plans for your life fulfilled; Man it's so wonderful!!!!!

11. Bonus: Some desires you have will not change. When you take a leap of faith into really living for Christ, some think God strips you of everything. He strips the filth. But if some of your desires are healthy but you've just been perverting it, he will use it for his glory. For example marriage.I have had such a heavy desire for marriage. But instead of stepping out of God's will, I now can keep that desire and do it God's way <3

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And I just absolutely love this song! Because I truly have found something worth living for!


What have you learned in faith?

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Take heed,Unless you will fall!

Thursday November 28th, 2013

1st Corinthians 10:12

Wherefore let him that thinketh he standeth take heed lest he fall.


This blog is for those who are in Christ. Both those who partake of babe spiritual milk,meaning they know little of the word;or those that partake in the meater word of God,meaning you are an avid reader of the bible and live by it.
This blog is also for those who may know of Jesus but don't live by his commandments.
        What all three of us have in common is we all were made by GOD. As God's creation we have to be Alert! Watchful! At All Times! As Christians thankfully we have a Lord and savior Jesus who surpasses all other fake and temporary peace in this world, and we are able to call upon him in time of need! But those who have not surrendered their hearts to Christ, in their time of watching and staying alert, their hearts will be troubled! It's a FACT! 

I had posted a scenario on my facebook page:

Your are a Born Again Christian woman and you get married to a Born Again man, you say. And you've gone through marriage counseling by God's grace. A month into your marriage, he' is found cheating on you..WOULD YOU DIVORCE? 

A scenario like this only comes about because of ONE thing, the man and the woman were not carefully watching over their spiritual life;and in turn they fell. The man because he isn't diligently watching over his eyes, and guarding his heart and so he is lead away to another woman with pure lust. And the woman who may or may not have been carefully watching over the marriage prayerfully is also affected by the husband's behavior because they are one. This couple will have no such excuse when faced with God for this type of breaking of their marriage covenant.

The thing about it is, for unbleivers those who choose to not recieve Christ, will have no excuse before God, and when temptations and hard life trials come, because Christ was preached to them and they recieved him not.Those in Christ will also have no excuse as to how life is poorly handled when faced with storms  because Christ was always there to comfort them in their time of need.

We all must stay alert, humble and never prideful. Because where you think you are now,  PLEASE take heed, pay attention, and be cautious, unless you will fall a hard fall, back to where you came from, maybe nonredeemable.....but by God's grace, I pray that fall will never be your portion in Jesus name.



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The DANGERS of watching PORN

Friday November 8th, 2013


PORN. A very familiar word for our youth, young adults, and adults. Sadly even many elementary aged children know the term, and may have stumbled upon a video due to its easy accessibility on the internet.




I am no different. As mentioned in previous blogs at an age when I was exploring my own body at the age of 13, I too clicked a play > button and indulged myself in selfish sexual perversion, right on my home computer. Luckily my dad checked the internet history daily and quickly shut it  down. But many of us aren't lucky. We may not have a parent considerate enough to SHUT down what dangers that come with PORN.

In our bedrooms, dorm rooms, apartment, on our cell phones, ipads, laptops where we think no 
one is watching we have a desire in our heart to want to watch two human beings indulge in inappropriate sexual acts, then this desire makes its way to our mind, to then turn into an action that makes us click on that video, or tv show. The first time you click it maybe you are saying to  yourself this will be the only time, you are just curious. Know that God created you as a sexual wanting creature. From Sex you were made, and sex you will partake in to create more children and help flee from sexual immorality when married. SO if you watch porn once it will be an addiction and it's only by the grace of God, you will be able to stop. That's danger number 1.

You may be asking where in the bible does it say not to watch PORN? 


Matthew 5:28



Jesus tells us here, any one of us both men or woman, who looks at the opposite sex lustfully has committed sexual sin in our hearts. And in Proverbs we learn out of the heart flows the issues of life. Watching Porn is an issue. Watching Porn creates this lust whether you are doing anything physical with your body other than using your eyes to watch. And in watching Porn you are committing adultery because the act of sexual intercourse is to be done between a man and a woman who are married and have made a vow to stay together for the rest of their lives
1 Corinthians 6:18-20(NLT)
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.


Watching Porn is a sexual sin and it defiles your body. Sin as explained in my blog post here , spreads to other areas of your life,and affects many many other things, we will touch more on it below. 

There are so many other verses but lastly in Job it's written

Job 31:1 


“I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin?"






When you watch porn you are creating a covenant with your eyes, looking upon a sexual covenant the covenant of immorality, and a covenant that can hinder your own views of sex. PORN creates in you a superficial type of beauty in a man or woman. It creates in you a superficial perverse way of love you now expect to be in your bedroom once married.








Sadly it's not only single people that watch pornography. There is a SERIOUS SERIOUS ERROR in the church that says it's ok married men and woman watch porn, so they do. THIS IS AN ERROR. Many worldly psychologist have falsely stated  you should watch it with your spouse to start foreplay. The holy spirit is the best love maker in marriage, lean on him!













Moving on though, let's talk about the PORN industry:













Porn as fondly abbreviated by society is a Hollywood movie. It is fiction, staged in front of a set. Before they start you can expect the famous Hollywood line : LIGHTS, CAMERA, ACTION! Makers of porn have made it believable for people to associate pain with pleasure. They show a scene that is painful but appears as though the actress is enjoying it. On a TBN documentary an ex-porn film maker was saying how anal sex is something she dreads and cries out of fear right before the sex scene. However when the camera starts rolling her and others appear like its heaven on earth. 














Why should singles not watch PORN you ask?









Porn sets unrealistic expectation for the future marriage. Someone that watches porn is never satisfied in marriage, because porn has set in their minds a very unrealistic expectation that can not be obtained. A number of married people who have watched porn now wonder why their spouse is not able to meet their needs. They wonder why their wives cant act like the porn stars. One lady stated that she didn't enjoy sex with her husband because how she reached climax was not how it was in a porn scene. These expectations are unreal, and has destroyed many homes and has caused infidelity, because many people are not satisfied due to unrealistic desires.  As a single, PORN inhibits the deadly sin of masturbation. And touching yourself sister, and brother, creates problems in letting God's true grace fall upon your life and it does negatively affect your marriage. By watching Porn you are also allowing seeds from those actor's lives to be planted in your heart, and seeds of the devil also be planted. Porn is one of the devils active workshops. Porn again set's a perverted view of beauty. The actors have a ton of makeup and their body are false-fully edited; to have idols of beauty in your heart, will never allow God the chance of giving you his best in a spouse.


You are married? Why should married people not watch PORN you ask?











As Christians we are not NOT to engage in pre-marital sex, so then how do we know how to engage in it when the time comes since we are not quote on quote experienced? I tell you that a worldly psychologist is not your answer, how can a worldly person have an understanding on a Godly thing like sex?! YES God created sex, so he knows how it's done best!

2 Corinthians 6:13-15
13 Now for a recompence in the same, (I speak as unto my children,) be ye also enlarged.
14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?










Speak to Christian leaders that God has given the grace to talk about this holy union called sex in marriage. Speak to a medical doctor. But I need you to understand that you can not expect every leader to talk to you about it because they may not have the grace to do so.Sex has become an uncomfortable topic because the devil has corrupted it and it is often looked at as a bad thing. But I tell you it's not. It was created by God for love enjoyment and procreation. Seek help for all your sexual questions!


On both sides, on camera and those watching, PORN benefits neither! It will ruin and spoil your life if you keep indulging in an unreal fantasy. We watch PORN because we want to feel loved, wanted, desired. I am telling you today! These is a God who wants to fill that void. He wants to love you, and take care of you. He birthed that desire of love in us to show him that love, so he in-turn can show us. His name is Jesus and he is calling you to give up your old life unto him, so he can give you a new life FREE from the bondage of pornography and into a new life of purity!

Lastly,

Learn what science has to say about porn. ON all sides its a NO GO.




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UNASHAMED VIRGIN: 20 + UP

Sunday November 3rd, 2013

A young brother, 25 who is getting to really know Jesus Christ asked me to write this blog. He is a virgin and he actually feels ashamed.

He feels ashamed that he is walking in Purity.

He feels ashamed that he actually has OBEYED God's commandments.

He feels ashamed that if he stays pure till marriage he will be sharing an unbreakable covenant with his wife, and wont have to explain why he inserted himself into other females but didn't see them worthy to marry.

He feels ashamed his marriage bed will not be undefiled.

He feels ashamed that he has not gotten a sexual transmitted diseases(yes you can get it other ways other than sexual intercourse,but its rare)

He feels ashamed he doesn't have a child out there he can't support and has never had to be faced in asking a girl to keep or not keep a baby

He ultimately feels ashamed because of the weight on men in society who equate multiple sex partners to manhood.

These feelings aren't specific to him or men, but also to females who may be feeling the same. I have one word to tell you. All your brothers and sister ex fornicators, that came to know Jesus, ask God for forgiveness. For giving into social pressures to give up one of the most sacred part of  their human body;saved to be shared with the one person God created us to be with, and to be able to multiply and subdue the earth with.




I want to explain the beautiful covenant of marriage that intimacy is worth to be saved in.

Let's read :

1 Corinthians 7:1-40

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

There are so many other verses showing how sexually pleasing a marriage can be besides this one. How marriage can be very enjoyable, and very inviting on all fronts. How waiting to do it God's way brings:

1. Two people that are actively working to selflessly please each other.In  worldly relationships where commitment of marriage is not done God's way, two people are selfish. Only looking to please themselves, and that creates a wedge between the two. 

2. No soul ties to talk about. When intercourse between two people commence, this creates the joining of the souls. In the brain and heart the physical connection is created. The more partners you have the more soul ties you are creating. 

Matthew 18:18 says:

 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
Those who have had these soul ties have to really pray for God to help break them so their marriage covenant can really be as special as the day they gave their life to Jesus Christ.

 3. Marriage God's way without dating the world's way lessens the practice of recreational dating damaging your relationship. In recreational dating there are two people who haven't been totally sold on each other, who hide and smother their feeling by being sexual intimate, when their feelings need to be dealt with without the access of sexual intimacy its unbearable and that's when a break up happens. As a person granted by grace to remain pure you aren't sucked into this cycle. So when you get married, when things get difficult because through courting you were able to JUST talk things out, your marriage is built on a solid rock and will last.

Brother, sister YOUR PURITY IS SO IMPORTANT ! The world's way into womanhood and manhood, that really fades once you are getting to that age when your parents are wondering why you don't have a wife or husband yet, ISN'T WORTH IT! Do not be swayed by the facade being portrayed on TV, radio, internet of bachelors and bacheloretts. It's an empty life. And these men and woman who have given their most sacred parts of their bodies prematurely yearn for a deeper love, the BEST love of all..JESUS CHRIST. You my friend have found it, or if you don't know him yet, know that sex partner or not, marriage partner or not, people die, the world fades away, but a GOD that NEVER DIES,and is perfect in Love, is someone you need and should want to know! 

You are not the only virgin out there! There are a host of men and organizations who have been moved by God through the holy spirit to stand out boldly for God as Virgins till marriage.

Stephen Yamoah
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"He is a Man of God, Speaker, Abstinence Advocate, Personality, Teacher, brother, friend, Winner, married to his lovely one wife, and waited till his marriage day to lose his virginity "



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You are not in this alone. Give your whole heart to Christ. Keep contending for the faith. Continue to believe God for your wife and husband, pray in the mean time so your discerning spirit can identify the right one when the time comes.

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