God's design of the WOMAN

Saturday, December 28th 2013 

I really thank God for opening my eyes spiritually.For bringing me out of the dark and into the light. What I have learned through the scriptures, from wise man of God, and revelation, is I was deeply rooted in the sinful things of this world due to the lack of knowledge I knew about mysely and the makeup of a woman. I lacked the truth about the lovely wants and needs God had put in me and every young woman that's born into this world. 

This blog will seek to explain how God made a woman(female) from her purpose, to her wants, and her needs. My prayer is after reading this females themselves know they are indeed very loved, males understand the jewels in females and cherish them in words and actions, for fathers to love, keep, and protect their daughters closely, and for husbands to continue to cherish and nourish their wives with time, love, and sweet words. 

Again like the previous blogs I have written,  to understand the makeup of a female we must go back to the beginning. We read in 

Genesis 2:21-23

20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

21 And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

From the beginning you see the woman, Eve was created from a man. A rib was taken from a man to create this woman to be a help-meet. Why a help-meet? If you read further on in Genesis 2, you see the two Adam and Eve become one and get married. From the moment a female is born she is already beautifully designed to be a help-meet. She has been created with a need, and want because she was essentially taking out of a man. Therefore the need she aspires for consciously and subconsciously, and craves should come from a man. 

What exactly is that need?

The needs of a woman is to be loved in words, conversation, communication, and attention from a male. 

Ideally as the father of a female he is to be the man that shows his daughter this needed love, up until her husband comes. I shared more specifics on how a dad can communicate this much needed need to a daughter in my Dear Dad blog.  If the father of the daughter is not alive or has abandoned her, then a male figure who has become her guardian is also acceptable.  

As a brother or sister in Christ or biologically you are to stick up for your sister in the public and the open. You are not to hate, call her foul names you often hear from many rappers about females,or disrespect her. You are to ask her how she is doing, compliment her, correct her, and bring the best out of her as her sibling.

As a husband to your wife, she is a favor and a blessing to you:

Proverbs 18:22 

22Whosoever findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth the favor of the Lord.

And a wife is a crown unto her husband:

Proverbs 12:4 

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband

Therefore husbands, a day you have with your wife is a true gift from the Lord. And to sustain her is to love her so you are able to present her to yourself without spots or wrinkles. You are there to not only take from her, take her cooking, cleaning, physical attention but you are to lead a way, make things easy, hear her un-package all her thoughts, vacate and unwind with her every so often. Life when married is not a time to live alone ever, its a time for you two to truly be one. A woman who stays home is not home for her own benefit to stay there and never get to spend time with her husband who goes in and out. She is also there to also be catered to by her husband.

Many females from young girls, to teenagers, to young adults, adults,married and single woman are being depraved of this basic need of love, want ,and desire to fill that void God has created within them, from a man. This leads young girls to be lead to be brainwashed and perform sexual acts from men who show them this love but then perverse and manipulate them. Young girls in this situation get a rush of happiness when the temptation and sin seeps in, so they don't shy away from it because they experience this void of love being filled. The older we get the more this desire and void grows bigger within a female, not to say this desire isn't felt in very young girls because it sure is! This void leads many woman to stripping, porn, and pre-marital relations. It's an epidemic because fathers, guardians, brothers, and husbands don't understand the makeup and wiring of a female

How do we solve this problem? To ensure females are feeling loved, the void is being filled, and each of God's daughters can reach their full potential in life?

1. To introduce the love and sacrifice of the most perfect and superior male hero that has ever graced this earth to each and every one of God's daughters; JESUS CHRIST. Introducing Jesus to a person is not done by only two parents for a certain amount of time, one parent, church folk only, or by trusting on luck. Introducing Jesus should start as soon as the guardian or parents knows Jesus for themselves. Jesus must constantly be shared with God's daughters so they know they were created with a purpose and that they are loved. If married both parents should actively engage in this process and should prove to show the daughter they love and honor God's rules. God's promises and love for our daughters are found through out the pages of the bible, which after accepting Jesus we use as our guidebook in this life on earth. God promises to comfort all those that come to him, especially to love us unconditionally. And Jesus is perfect so he exceeds any type of earthly love from humans who aren't perfect.

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.

2. Father love and cherish you daughter(s).Protect and provide for her,pastor her, pray over and with her, read the Bible stories, go to church, and ask what she's learning about Jesus. You've been called to be the spiritual leader of your home. Engage with your daughter's walk with the Lord throughout her entire life. As a parent your job will be to reflect the love of Christ to your daughter and teach her to walk in His ways. Talk to her one on one often about the joy God has about keeping pure. Let her talk and unwind her thoughts to you, unless she will do it elsewhere and its most likely a guy that's giving her attention outside. Be her best male friend before she gets married, and that by intentionally telling her when you and her will go out and spend time. This relationship is critical. A Father daughter relationship must be formed.

3. Husbands should no longer live as a party of one in marriage. The wife doesn't only take the last name in the marriage. Each year of marriage should be stronger not worse than the last one. As a husband you are to be the head,leader, and lover of the marriage. Fill the need for love in your wife by taking her out, playing into her love language, again listening to her talk,and helping her with her daily duties. If these things don't happen, your wife will start to become sick, depressed, and many thing I pray will never happen. If you are to witness any of these thing, the quickest remedy is to give and love your wife like Christ loved the church and that was to give himself for us all.

A letter written by Brad Pitt was published to the public this week. In it he writes to his wife Angelina Jolie about how when she was sick,it was the simple increase of love he showed her that helped her recover from her sickness. He quotes "And then I realized one thing: the woman is the reflection of her man." A woman is indeed the reflection of man, whether it's her heavenly father who knew her purpose before she was born, her earthly father who helps provide the sperm to make her, and or her husband who is her covering in marriage!

My prayer is after reading this blog, we as females understand this need we have, know its not only because it's strong and we sometimes find ourselves craving attention from our fathers or guys outside our home, but because God created us with this need. Now we know we need to fill the void by teaching our Fathers this knowledge and talking to him about our fears and goals, we also need to build a strong relationship with Jesus Christ who is  the best man of all, and help him show us how loved we are through scriptures. So that this void is not filled with perverse things from this world, and our bodies aren't used as a display for the devil to walk over us. I pray men's eyes are open and our females are no longer robbed of the love we so need.

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Dangers of Masturbation

Thursday, December 19th 2013 

The thing about Christianity is there are sins that not blatantly outlined in the bible. Like in Proverbs 6, it lists seven things the Lord hates, which are "haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil ,feet that race to do wrong,a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family." And the bible also outlines other more obvious sins in the ten commandments and in the new testament for not loving your brother and God. But a sin that's not so forward in scripture is masturbation.  Yes, masturbation is a sin, and I will break it down for you so you understand. And when you understand, I pray you will say a prayer with me so you can be set free from the sin and God's purpose for your life can be fulfilled.

What is masturbation?

Masturbation is the act of a person in touching their own genitals for sexual arousal and pleasure. 

As mentioned in a previous post I was introduced to the act in middle school at the age of 12. It was in the curriculum in health class to teach me and my classmates to masturbate. So duh I tried it, so if you have ever done this act or you currently do, you can and will stop by God's grace. Anyway, thank God for my mom and teaching me the word of
God, explaining to me it was wrong and therefore  it never went that far.

Masturbation in God's eyes is unacceptable and is not warranted in anyway by God. There are so many lies circling out there that masturbation is ok, we are sexual beings so while single go ahead touch yourself, and when we are married it helps with your sex life, LIES LIES LIES LIES! 

Masturbation comes about from sexual arousal and thoughts, a feeling of loneliness to fill a void, and to arouse your own flesh..neither of these goals need masturbation to be achieved!

First of all, as a child of God it says in Songs of Solomon to NOT awaken love before it's time, meaning the right time to awaken love is in marriage. So if you are single sexual thoughts or arousal may surface but you must flee and cast out those thoughts immediately.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God

Ephesians 5:3-4

Trust, I feel you, especially to my men, as sex exudes and surrounds us constantly in our day and age, especially due to the fact woman have lost their modest virtue, there is no excuse. God can and will give you the grace to have the stronghold of sexual thoughts and arousal flee from your mind as a single.

Hebrews 2:18 

For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.

  

Jesus himself, the son of God lived a perfect life in his 30's with no children, wife, and lots of temptation.

When you are married however, go ahead married couples think about your spouse sexually. By God's grace you would have married God's will for you and the purpose of marriage is so sexual immorality would not run ramped so enjoy your spouse, BUT this does not warrant masturbation and we'll get to explaining that further.

Second of all, a feeling of loneliness can be filled by our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. Because you feel lonely does not warrant a time to touch and arouse your flesh no matter how tempting it may be. To really have Jesus fill your time of loneliness you must create a personal relationship with him, and that means dying to your flesh. 

Scriptures that help explain are:

James 1:14-15 

But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death. 

1 Peter 2:11 

Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul.

"Man,  Janet I am human how do I die to my flesh?!" you ask, well it's by renewing your mind by the word of God, as it says in (Romans 12:2) and praying to God. Having a conversation with him and intentionally choosing to spend time by kneeling, standing and reading your bible and then praying it in. It is then, thatGod will surround you and comfort you and your high will come from him :):

Proverbs 18:10 

The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous man runs into it and is safe.

Last and third is to arouse your own flesh and it kind of blends one and two together. There are so many sex toy industry like "Bedroom Kandi" and various others that tell you it's ok to please yourself. NO! The only arousing of the flesh that should be happening as a single should be maybe the butterflies you get from your future spouse,and the revelations and conviction you get from Jesus Christ! And when married the arousal should come from your ONE husband or wife. Sexual intimacy is to be enjoyed with an act of TWO not an act of one. There are so many verses in Song of Solomon on the intimacy that God gives and expects from the marriages he's brought together. In Ephesians he explains marriage is a relationship between the church and God, meaning just like Jesus who gave his life for sinners like us, your spouse and yourself are to give their lives and bodies to each other. Masturbation is not mentioned in this act. Masturbation is not needed to arouse or test drive the action down there. Masturbation as a single limits the intimacy and arousal for your future marriage. How can you expect for God's will and appropriate intimacy to be achieved if you already have your own way of things? If you are married, again your spouse is who your pleasure and arousal comes from, and if there is a situation or problem call on Jesus, pray the holy spirit works even in that special area of your marriage. 

Masturbation is not a blatant sin but it is a sin. In 

1 Corinthians 10:31

So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.

Masturbation gives no kind of glory to God. And this type of sin, exposes you to want to indulge in other sins. It's really the devil's way to lead you into pre-marital sex, multiple sex partners, and no longer preserving your chastity and purity he desires each and every son and daughter of his to have.

Don't let yourself be the single angry women, or marriage magazines that feed you lies that masturbation is ok.

If you know you are dealing with masturbation, I would love for you to rightfully reclaim your crown in God's  kingdom by saying this prayer:

Heavenly father, I thank you for my life, I thank you for sending your one and only son Jesus Christ to die and strip me of my sins. God I admit I have been masturbating and pleasing my flesh you tell us each and everyday to kill to serve you. Heavenly father help me flee from this sin against my own body, help me as a single to rest in you to find a spouse that is your will and grow in my relationship with you, and if and when married help me to enjoy my spouse and create intimacy that pleases you. God I thank you for following your will and not leaning on my own understanding. Thank you Jesus for freeing me of this sin. Thank you Jesus for accepting me as a child of you and help me to continue to renew my mind daily with your word. In Jesus name I pray amen!

(Holiday Party at my congressional internship)

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LUKEWARM CHRISTIAN: NIGHTCLUB ON SATURDAY, CHURCH ON SUNDAY

Saturday, December 14th, 2013 

I am not sure why even in a Christian home, I felt it was ok to explore going to a nightclub in High School..well actually I do know now, through revelation from God. It was because there is DEEP error in the church. The spirit of Luke-warmness has really plagued the Christian body, or again in this Lukewarm series we've learned that the spirit of God we think we carry, may not really be the spirit of God and that we are not really BORN AGAIN if we partake in such activities.

Going to the club any day of the week is, not only on Saturday night and thinking you are giving acceptable service to God each and every Sunday, is not the spirit of God.

What happens at the nightclub?

From when I went, people are drinking, the word of God is nowhere being ministered, the dressing of people especially females are very short and exposing, and the dancing emulates the motions of having sex, an act that should only be done with your husband in a private setting.

1 Corinthians 10:31

Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God.

As a Christian all that you do must give glory to God. Can you really say you are glorifying God by dancing, drinking, and listening to music that builds lust within your body? because at these clubs there is no music that embody the spirit of holiness and righteousness. 

Without holiness and righteousness no man can see the Lord. With a body and mindset of sin, God's spirit cannot reside in you. 

Nightclubs are a part of the world which is controlled by Satan. They are designed for the purpose of giving oneself over to sinful desires. Nightclubs exist primarily for two purposes: drinking alcohol and meeting members of the opposite sex, most often with sexual activity in mind. Yes, there are music and dancing, but primarily singles in particular go clubbing to drink and meet someone. Nightclubs are of the world, and, while Christians are to be in the world, we are not to be of it. Being of the world means to be interested in and desiring those things that appeal to our sinful nature.

1 John 3:4-9 KJV


Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law. And ye know that he was manifested to take away our sins; and in him is no sin. Whosoever abideth in him sinneth not: whosoever sinneth hath not seen him, neither known him. Little children, let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous. He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil. Whosoever is born of God doth not commit sin; for his seed remaineth in him: and he cannot sin, because he is born of God.

God does not desire for us to give ourselves over to sin so easily and willfully. Notice what God says here, "put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires." It's interesting to note that God says when we give ourselves over to our sin nature; we are being deceived by our desires. Satan is a master counterfeiter. In other words, Satan presents something that appears on the surface to be attractive. The allure of clubbing is that it is very enjoyable, fun, and exciting. What we don't see are the consequences because Satan keeps the sensual attraction at the forefront of our minds. Sex, alcohol, and drugs—all found in most nightclubs—are very destructive, both physically and spiritually. God has a place for sex where it is the most enjoyable—in monogamous marriage, where there are no STD's, HIV, guilt, alone-ness, and those who don't believe God in this are short-changing themselves. The CLUB is especially not for Christians. Aside from the obvious temptations, there is the issue of our Christian witness in the world. When unbelievers see a professing Christian engaging in a sinful lifestyle, Christ is maligned and demeaned. We are to let our lights shine before men so they see our good works and glorify our Father who is in heaven.

If you are in a cycle now of going to the clubs on the weekday and weekend and you serve in the church on Sunday or think it's ok, it's not. And if you are doing it because you desire a husband or wife, the club is not where a child of God should be, repent, give your life to Christ and God will give you a partner that's His will for you. 

 If you feel going to the club brings a thrill or desire you crave, you will continue to come up empty, the kidney will eventually fail from all that drinking, God is looking for all those who are heavy burdened to come to him because He will give you rest, come and find hope and comfort in Jesus Christ, He made you and He knows how to relax you. <3

An awesome brother also did a video on this topic check it out. I pray it helps to convict you in Jesus name. AMEN

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Nigerian In the Diaspora World Investment Conference 2013

Saturday, September 21st, 2013

 Trade & Investments in Nigeria: What Role Does Nigerian Youth Play?

On September, 21st  at the Renaissance Hotel, Newark, New Jersey, the Youth Panel for the Nigerian in the Diaspora Organization(NIDO) was held from 1-5pm, although cut a little short.

The Youth portion focused on how Young Nigerians are able to drive trade into Nigeria.

Moderator and creator Yetunde A Odugbesan-Omede  did an excellent job hand picking the panelist to engage and inform the youth on the question at hand.

Panelists included:

 Moderator & Organizer: Yetunde A Odugbesan-Omede. Founder of

            Yetunde Global  Consulting LLC and Young Woman's Guide. For more   

            about Yetunde please visit www.yetundeodugbesan.com

            Moderator: Carol Frazer. Founder of Flourish & Bloom Entertainment

            (FBE). Carol is a marketing executive, executive producer,

            philanthropist, entrepreneur and a soon to be published author.

            more about Carol please visit http://about.me/carolfrazer

            Keynote Speaker: Mr. Steve Akinboro. Executive Vice President of   

            Dominos Pizza. For more about Steve and his relations with

            Dominos please visit Reuters.

            Panelist: Dayo Isreal is (LLB (Hons), MA International Relations) 

            a seasoned diplomat and an in demand evangelist of the Gospel of Jesus 

            Christ among many other things. For more about Dayo please visit

http://dayoisrael.tv/

                 Panelist: Mohammad Alik. Senior Manager at The Nigerian Stock  

            Exchange

            Panelist: Ony Nwahuocha Esq. Attorney at law. Founder of

                 Ony Law; also check out the site for more about Ony.

Discussions were broken down into 3 parts.

 Discussion 1: Role of Nigerian Youths in Accelerating Trade and Investments in Nigeria  and Historical Account of Youth involvement in Trade & Investments in Nigeria  An exhaustive catalog of known cases — past and ongoing; highlight successes and failures also Q&A

Discussion  2: Current priority areas of Trade & Investments in Nigeria & Doing Business in Nigeria

 
Discussion 3. Overcoming the Challenges of Trade & Investments in Nigeria

The panel discussion started off great. One stated "not engaging the Nigerian youth in the diaspora makes them not interested in pouring back into Nigeria, but makes them want to pull out". He shared Matthew 16:28 and emphasized the key to success is to deny oneself and put the needs of others first, and in this true joy can be found.

As a part of the conference there were presentations from ASO Savings and Loans PLC and Stanbic IBTC Bank whom explained ways in driving trade into Nigeria was building and renting, or owning homes. They both have programs and personnel to walk you through the process and help one in sustaining the property if you choose to travel, or live outside the country.

Investment is a crucial way to boost the economy of Nigeria.

All Youth in and out of the Nigerian Diaspora are being called to action! To participate to make a progressive economy for our country.

Next year Nigerian in the Diaspora Organization(NIDO), hopes to incorporate a youth section again. So if you are a youth, Nigerian, or not Nigerian but interested in the development of Nigeria, I hope to see you there!

                   



(Banner)

(Yetunde A Odugbesan-Omede and a Youth Volunteer)



(Ony of Ony Law)

(All the Panelists)

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