The correct prayer for Sexual Purity [For Singles]

Friday, January 24th 2014

One would think, when you give your life to Christ  and truly become a new creature,all your old cravings would go away.

By God's grace for me that wasn't my thinking, but I did expect by living for Christ I would be able to withstand temptation and uphold his commandments. What I have learned is that's exactly what God seeks to do for us. He doesn't promise that we won't be tempted, he certainly doesn't promise the cravings of the old man would go away, but he does say with him he gives us an escape to never indulge, that although we may get those sexual urges, imaginations of  future rendezvous, wet dreams and so forth it will never overtake us for us to get up, act on it or let it consume out hearts. Like it says in:

James 4:7

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

&

1 John 4:4

Ye are of God, little children, and have overcome them: because greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.

I want to tell you to my virgins, non-virgins, sisters and brothers who have exposed themselves to porn, sexual perversion, skype sex, sexting, phone sex, masturbation if you still have urges and thoughts to re-live those moments of sinful ecstasy don't condemn yourself! Just pray , stand on your identity with Christ and the thoughts will flee. I have had the same thoughts, others who have come into Christ and have now taken a vow of abstinence till marriage have the thoughts, and virgins who have been exposed to the things above have the thoughts. The thoughts aren't the problem, do not feel condemned, but there is a way to channel it and to allow God's redemption, grace and peace to truly over take you and help you.

I would like to encourage you with this story:

A brother in his mid 30's shared a very profound testimony with me. He gave his life to Christ  when he was 14 years of age. From the time he was 17 he started to have wet dreams, he would fantasize with being with woman in over night and day dream. But he knew he could not commit fornication and have pre-marital sex, so he never indulged in his fantasies, he waited on the Lord and prayed for his future wife. Wrongfully he came into an encounter with one of many pastors who tell people wet dreams are only demonic. they can be ; that any man who is more than able to engage sexually with a girl at 14 are demonic for wanting to engage in that act by having wet dreams. (MEN, WOMAN, I want to let you know it is a normal occurrence to have wet dreams, there is nothing demonic about them[ http://teens.webmd.com/boys/wet-dream-faq] ) Continuing on, that encounter helped him defer marriage longer than he knew he should have, but he eventually got married and now he no longer has to suffer through wet dream, they have ceased, he can now enjoy and release himself natural with his beautiful wife.

The moral of the story is to encourage you and tell you the desire to be loved in that intimate way is normal. But the devil knows that desire brings chemical stimulants of happiness in your brain, so he will try to lure your lusts into going back to your vomit of pre-marital sex, masturbation and the sorts.  We must fight the devil back, we must pray, be vigilant and be sober. 

Our prayer should no more be, God take this desire of sex away, but it should be:

God prepare my heart and mind to grow more in love with you, to wait patiently for the spouse you made for me, so within marriage I can be able to enjoy the beautiful creation of Sex that helps deepen my spouse and I's love. To live by Romans 12:2 to not conformed to this world: but be  transformed by the renewing of my mind, that I may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.Father help me, In Jesus Name AMEN

I am right here walking this journey with you, I love you just as much as God loves you. Keep strong. I am praying for you <3

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Janet Adeola Songonuga

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Why are you in College? 5 ways to help you find why

I can honestly say one of the biggest things I looked forward to when heading off to college was the possibility of meeting my future husband. Yep. Well if you have been reading my blogs you already know,  I, the author have had a desire for marriage since I was 14. Now, that I am in my early twenties the desire still remains, but I am totally doing it God's way which means not seeking a man, but seeking Jesus.

Let's start with:

Why are you in college? Pause and think about it. Here are some common answers. I am in college because I need the degree to get a good job. I am in college because I want to be a (insert profession here), or I am in college because it's next after high school; It's automatic; my parents told me to pick one and go. Lastly an answer could be they picked me to play a sport and it's free so I am going there.
There are many reasons why one goes to college..
but if one grows up in an affluent Suburb like mine, or comes from a culture like mine, Nigeria, where Education especially higher education is expected, one knows college is the next step after high school. High school graduations are not that esteemed like American's praise it in my culture. Ones doctorate graduation is highly esteemed.

BUT..there is a danger to this question!

If all you know about yourself and your choice to go to college is that it's required of you. College will NOT be the place you should be eager to relax,chill-out, party out and go without a clear purpose and vision for your life.

I am writing this informational because there is an epidemic of inflow of college students who may be entering into college at the wrong times in their lives or may not need to enter college at all.

SO remember what I shared in the beginning of this blog, well I have heard females tell me too, they are in college to find a husband, yes a husband. Forget the degree and career. What this does is the course-work you choose becomes secondary to that first pursuit of a husband or whatever else your motive is in coming to college. You then can ask me, how do you really find your purpose in college? What should your focus be?

1. You need to be Born-Again. Being Born-Again is inviting Jesus into your life and making him your Lord. When you are  born-again the purpose and direction you seek can be effectively communicated to you from God, because you are now a child of his.

2. You need to Pray. I often get asked, how do I pray and what do I pray for. Well prayer is just a conversation between you and God. You are thanking him for what you do have, asking him to continue to help you to be worthy enough to enter his presence; Then you can ask him to help you utilize the gifts he has given you in the best way possible. You ask him what is your  purpose, major, and direction in pursuing a college degree.

Luke 11:9

And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you.

3. You need to write out the vision you see for yourself. In doing this you need to be in tune with the spirit of God inside of you and the peace you will receive. For example, I want to be a housewife but help  mental health reform so on my vision board I have internships, scholarships, and educational paths I am to go on to get to the location I want to be.

4. You need to weigh the cost financially. Student loans are becoming such a norm in our society. I would encourage you to widely select the colleges you apply to, ranging in cost, seek out as much aid as you can, find a job,  and try not to borrow. You have to see how much college will cost you. Think about it, higher education takes anywhere from 4-11 years depending on your intending profession, but that's still so short compered to the 70 plus years you are going to live on this earth. I desire to stay at home and tend to my husband and children.
I need to make sure the financial costs I bear isn't going to hinder the debt to income ration I will bring into my future marriage.

5. Lastly you need to have a core support system to guide you through the changes emotionally you will be going through in college. Ideally this would be Jesus, biological family, church family, and a mentor. College makes you face a lot of things. Not only academic challenges, but spiritual and physical challenges. Loneliness and peer pressure grows to another level. Temptation is an option daily but much stronger  than one thinks. You must be able to have others around you who can speak into your life,sharpen your iron, and pray.

Sister, Brother, really really think about it, your college years will seem so minuet come 40, 50, 60 years of age. Don't buy into the hype about living and going hard for the college party life. Seek to pursue your education with focus, clarity, and purpose. Jesus seeks to give you that, seek him and you will find him!

Psalms 37:7

Rest in the LORD, and wait patiently for him:

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When you've Fallen

Thursday, January 2nd 2014

Happy Happy Happy New Year to you! I pray however you celebrated the ushering in of the new year, that you had a blessed and enjoyable time. I was in the presence of the Lord,with my church, Deeper Life Bible Church of New Jersey. It was a great time. I pray whatever your desire is for this New Year, it will be granted to you in Jesus name. If your desire is to get to know more of God, I pray he grants you the wisdom in Jesus name!

So this blog is entitled when you've fallen, and to be honest with you, I told a lie on December 2nd 2013. I am not even going to justify it as a white lie., I won't go into much details but many would have said it was a white lie, because it may not have hurt anyone. What I observed though is through out that week I told two more lies. Why do I remember them? Why is it a big deal? Because I noticed I had backslide, I had allowed a minuet sin to easily roll off my tongue, and even though I uttered "sorry Jesus" I didn't really REPENT, seek God's face to ask God to really strip me away from the spirit of lying in a culture where lying is a norm! I blogged earlier on, what little sin can do in ones life HERE, if it is not cut down and dealt with. Sin can spread and grow, a little gateway for sin creates a spark, and then a fire is lite and other sin can creep in and a full blown fire is created. What does sin lead to?

Romans 6:15

For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Sin leads to death! Death spiritually, death in love, death in thoughts, aspirations, and ultimately physical death!

So I had realized I had fallen, and to continue to have an intimate relationship with Jesus something had to change. So brother, sister, have you done something that's not pleasing to God? You were doing so well in your walk at one point, and BAM you slip up, you feel the conviction and start to feel maybe condemned, weak, guilty?

STOP.

First off this is NOT the time to to feel weak, repent-full yes, not weak, because you gave yourself to receiving salvation, therefore you rely on God's strength and he has enough of his grace to overwhelm and heal you. 

(An Amazing Sister of mine Charity! Check out her blog at modestic-elegance.blogspot.com)

1. So like me that first step you take when you've noticed you've fallen off the wagon, whether it be lying, stealing, porn, masturbation, anger, pre-marital sex, adultery, drinking alcohol, murder ,

hatred whatever, is ACKNOWLEDGING YOU WERE WRONG. No, the devil, mama, sister, brother, aunty, girlfriend, boyfriend didn't make you do it. You did it on your own! So admit to it.

2. Go on your knees and repent, tell Jesus, thank him for his awesome strength and grace, and ask him for forgiveness for where you've fallen. Don't do it with a prideful heart but truly humble yourself because he is graceful to forgive you, and give you the strength to continue an intimate relationship with him.

3. RENEW YOUR MIND in the area you have fallen. I would like to say though, if you call yourself a Christian and you repeatedly fall into a sin; For example you have a boyfriend/girlfriend both of you say you are born again but continue to have sex, then you are not Born again and need to truly give your life to Christ, believe in Jesus, and run from the temptation! But we fall because we haven't trained our thinking to live a pure, righteous, and holy life that God has called us to live.

Romans 12:2

2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

So, pull out your bible and do a study on the area you need renewing on. I looked up scriptures on lying. Also then pray, pray , pray the scriptures in, pray and ask God for help. God hears the prayers of the righteous and you are righteous because you've repented :) If you need additional council, seek a friend who is Born-Again and or wise counsel like an elder or pastor to shed more insight and to pray and agree with you!

4. And what I did was just sit before the Lord, talk about it to a best friend you have or really close sister or brother in Christ. Reflect on why Jesus truly came on this earth, and also maybe re-read the story of Jesus's death and Resurrection. Its so beautiful to take time out after an episode like this for the Lord. Its awesome, and God may speak to you through this.

Sister, Brother your walk with Christ is not alone. I am here walking with you, must importantly you have the helper the Holy Spirit and Jesus walking alongside with you. When you fall? get back up again. Again this blog is not to excuse repeated sin, but to know if you have fallen, you must push forward, renew your mind and pray it doesn't happen again. God has a divine purpose he wants to fulfill in each and everyone of our lives! Let your body be a living sacrifice always, holy and acceptable unto him in all things <3

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